Wednesday, April 24, 2013

I Am So Frustrated


As the summer has become increasingly closer, I've become increasingly anxious.  This summer is still very much up in the air for me.  When I first made the decision to stay in DC between my junior and senior year of college, I expected that some company or organization would take notice of me.  After all, I applied to well over twenty internships and jobs; I kept a relatively consistent blog; I remained active in things like Write a Letter Day, the Hollins Student Conference, and other things that would benefit me (and others) in a number of ways.  Yet I've not heard from anyone.
I wish I got paid for how much time I spend on this site.

I find this incredibly frustrating for several reasons.  It certainly makes a big dent in my ego and makes me doubt and question myself and every little thing that I do.  I constantly have to remind myself that it's not necessarily that I wasn't good enough for a particular job, but that they might not have even looked at my application or I was perhaps even over-qualified.

Still, I check craigslist almost daily; stalk internship websites like simplyhired, indeed, and internmatch; ask most people I talk to if they have any ideas or connections that might be helpful; try to stay on top of my LinkedIn page (add me, if you haven't already); and continue to brainstorm new avenues I can try that will be relevant to my eventual career, a resume booster, and a source of income for the summer.

I was speaking with my mom on the phone (as I do nearly every day) a few weeks ago.  We were discussing internships and both of my parents are insisting I must have a source of income this summer.  While I certainly would love to get paid, it's simply not realistic, especially for internship positions.  Mom didn't believe me when I told her most internships don't pay, even though I've been going through page after page of listings for a couple of years now.  (Note to self: Print out a few of those pages and show Mom.)  (Note to Mom: I still love you.)

Maybe I'm getting discouraged because I keep listening to Matt Nathanson's new song, "Mission Bells" on repeat.  Maybe I'm getting discouraged because I can't put as much time as I would like into internship searching because school work is currently devouring most of my time and will continue to do so for the next two weeks, at which time it will be too late to find an internship.

I've looked into child care jobs, pet care jobs, writing jobs, editing jobs, camp counselor jobs, administrative jobs, marketing jobs, blog jobs, you name it (unless it involves math, in which case I haven't bothered because we all know that would be a disaster for all parities involved).  I even posted on craigslist today that I was willing to help edit and revise papers for college/high school students for a fee.

I think the worst part about all of this is that I'm really starting to doubt my writing abilities.  Lately, I feel like every piece I've turned in for creative writing classes just aren't up to the same level of quality I've done in the past (then again, I always think something is better when I'm writing it than when I look at it months later -- so I could be wrong).  I listen to Matt Nathanson's lyrics and read poetry from unknown authors on Tumblr and feel like if even they can't break through to the mainstream audience, how can I even pretend to imagine that anyone beyond my circle of friends and family will ever read what I write?

I guess I'm kind of talking about two different issues right now, but they are very much intertwined in my mind.  It seems that no matter how well I do (3.95 GPA, a score of 32 out of a possible 35 on my conference presentation, an invitation to join Psi Chi Honor Society, etc.) it never translates into anything that's really worth anything.  I realize that's a kind of convoluted sentence -- basically, I get all of this positive recognition that doesn't really amount to anything in the real world and is therefore pretty much worthless.  It's not that I don't appreciate this recognition -- I do.  But as of right now, I am not seeing it pay off and that feels like an inhibiting force in my life.

Someone please tell me what to do with my life.
It also makes me really sad that I know that I'm capable of so many things, but because I don't turn in a perfect application or a perfect cover letter, potential employers never get to see what I'm really capable of.  Instead, they pick someone who might be fantastic at writing cover letters but is actually useless in the office (not that all people are this way -- I'm sure that's not the case with everyone, but I'm also sure that I'm more qualified for many positions that other people have been selected for).

I'm rambling and probably proving to people, at this point, that I'm really just as bad at writing as I currently believe myself to be, so I'm going to leave it here before I dig myself deeper.


Craigslist image courtesy of Crunch Base.
Direction image courtesy of Hyogoajet.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

It's Okay to Be Selfish


There is some statistic that floats around about how Americans don't take enough vacation time compared to other countries' workers.  As my boyfriend and I try to work out when and how long we can visit my hometown this summer, vacation time is a substantial issue and I'm frustrated for him.  He frequently works late and then comes home to work some more.  He works on the weekends.  He puts in a lot of thought into everything he does.  And he rarely has time for himself.

If I didn't think he loves what he does as much as he does, I wouldn't let him do this.

I know what it's like to burn out, and without even realizing you're doing it.  My first year as a resident assistant, my supervisors and previous RAs stressed how important it was to use the four days off we get
Buying more clocks won't give you
more time.
monthly.  I went on my happy way after training.  August finished out, we started classes in September, October flew by, and then we were in late November.  I had not used a single day.  I was proud of that fact, too.  I didn't need them.  After all, it's not like I had residents knocking on my door all the time and my school work was on time and well done.

Until late November.

In late November, I got hit with a ton of big projects and papers.  Thanksgiving break was approaching, I had to give up a weekend to attend VACUHO (a state-wide resident assistant conference -- I went eagerly and voluntarily but hadn't considered my assignment schedule very well), and I had been off my anti-depressants/anti-anxiety medication for nearly five months.  Still, I didn't take time off.

And then I broke down.  It was a huge mess.  I cried nonstop for a few days, had to go home a couple of days early because that was the only way I was getting a ride home, barely turned my things in on time, and was doubting whether or not I was actually any good at my job.  Or anything, for that matter.

December was a short month, but I took my birthday off.  The following semester, I made sure to use all four days each month, even if I didn't have anything planned.  Even just to use a day to get off campus and go to the mall or downtown helped.

My supervisor has since used me as a willing example during RA training.  She encourages me to tell my story whenever the question of time off comes up and I always insist RAs take the time off (even though that's the same thing RAs did to me when I trained the first time -- I emphasize that I know they're probably thinking, "Yeah, whatever, I don't need time off," but they actually do.)

Now that I take the time off, life is easier.  I don't feel guilty about taking the time off because it's good for me.  And whenever I'm feeling stressed or just like I haven't had enough me time recently, I ignore my homework for an afternoon (assuming I'm caught up enough) and catch up on Doctor Who or Once Upon a Time.

Yesterday afternoon, I was able to go back to the gym for the first time in a month -- it was so great.  Last night, I took time away from homework to paint my nails.  This weekend, I plan on setting aside some guitar time.

Relaxation leads to productivity.
You are not a bad person for setting aside your duties once in a while.  You can't perform your duties well, in fact, if you are continuously burnt out.

I realized, recently, this also translates to relationships.  Sometimes, you have to let go of some relationships in order to be a healthier individual and a better friend, sister, brother, parent, daughter, son, co-worker, or whatever else you might be.  Cutting those relationships may be painful, but hopefully the person on the other end will understand, especially if you explain that you feel like you're putting too much into the relationship and not getting enough out of it or that it's making it more difficult to be a good (insert title here).  You can always tell this person you're happy to try being friends, romantic partners, crossword buddies, or Dungeons and Dragons pals in the future, but right now the best thing for you is to take a break.  And that's okay.

So take a deep breath, enjoy the spring weather, do whatever it is that gives you a break emotionally, mentally, and physically and focus on you.  It's okay to be selfish.  I'm giving you permission.

Both images courtesy of Morgue File.

Friday, April 19, 2013

Top 10 Websites You've Never Heard Of

As someone who spends a lot of time online, I always get excited when I find a website that I haven't heard of before.  Whether it's a gaming website, an organization website, or something totally off the wall, I'm eager to check it out.  Recently I came across a few new sites that seem to be hidden gems.



1. Prezi - Prezi is like PowerPoint but better.  I love the clean templates with cool themes and awesome color schemes.  I love that the themes that are available have different ways of organization, so chances are, you will find a "best way" to present your information.  I love that all of your progress is saved to a place that is not your computer -- that means no lost work!  I love that you can check out the work of other people to see the fantastic ideas people are having and the creative ways they're utilizing Prezi.  My only caveat is, before you use the program, check with your audience to make sure they don't experience motion sickness easily, because it can trigger that with its 3D-like movement.

2. Who Needs Feminism? - Who Needs Feminism is a movement that utilizes social media to spread awareness about feminism.  It was started at Duke University and, even when I replicated the event (as the organization encourages) at my women's college, a surprising number of people had never heard of it.  Who Needs Feminism has a presence on Tumblr, Facebook, and Twitter.  While there has been some backlash with so-called "men's rights" activists (who don't understand that feminism does not mean anti-men, but rather pro-equality, meaning they are fighting for men to have the same rights in the few instances where women have "more"), the movement is growing daily.

3. 750Words - 750Words is a program similar to Write or Die! and Written? Kitten!  The premise of the site is that daily, you sign in and write 750 words.  These words can be whatever you like -- a diary, poetry, fiction, the same word 750 times, grocery lists, or a blog (which is what I did when I started this blog).  The content you write remains private and, the more you write, the more badges you can earn on the site.  For example, if you write three days in a row, you earn "the Turkey."  In addition to awesome badges, the site provides a ton of data on your writing habits, including documenting your mood based on vocabulary usage, the average amount of time it takes you to reach 750 words, the number of words you've written sine joining (I've reached 43,039 in fifty days of writing), and how long your longest writing streak is.  Unfortunately, the site is turning into a paid site on May 1 -- that is, to use the site, it's going to cost roughly $5 a month.  If I wasn't a poor college student, I'd totally keep doing it.  Guess I'll just have to go back to Write or Die!*

*Existing members (and members who sign up prior to May 1) will be awarded free lifetime accounts, with encouragements to donate.  Looks like I'll be sticking with 750Words after all! Hurray!

4. Dear Girls Above Me - Dear Girls Above Me chronicles the life of Charlie McDowell who lives in an apartment below two pretty clueless twenty-somethings.  The website describes the content as follows: "Two annoying girls moved into the apartment above me.  I'm forced to hear every dumb thing they say.  These are my letters to them."  Each "letter" to the girls is very short, as the content originated on Twitter.  McDowell has now compiled these letters into a book which is available for purchase.  I go to this site whenever I feel a little stupid -- it's not long before I feel like a genius again.

5. I Waste So Much Time - If you ever needed an excuse to procrastinate, this is it.  I Waste So Much Time allows you to do just what its title promises -- waste time.  You can easily go through pages and pages of funny and occasionally thought-provoking images and never realize that time is passing.  I sometimes run into images that I saw earlier that day on Tumblr or some other site, but I typically see several new things whenever I'm there.

6. TV Tropes - TV Tropes has a never-ending lists of tropes (or, recurring themes) in television, film, literature, and other media.  I've found this site helpful when I'm writing a novel or short story and either want to avoid cliches or am not sure where to take it next.  You can search by the title of a work or by trope, and it's great to find similarities between titles you're familiar with.  It's also a good tool if you're into a certain trope and want to find more material on that subject.  For example, if you want to see more on The Schizophrenia Conspiracy, you search that term and, with a description of the trope, you are provided with a list of films, web comics, video games, literature, and live-action television which all contain that trope.

7. Cut Out + Keep - Cut Out and Keep is an arsenal of crafts, recipes, and crafting tricks that can keep you busy for days.  Want an owl wallet?  There's a how-to for that.  Always wanted a Marilyn Monroe halter dress?  There's a how-to for that.  Dying for a Pokeball pillow?  There's a how-to for that.  Whether you like sewing, baking, cooking, crocheting, paper-crafting, or anything else, you're likely to find at least one tutorial or example of it on this site.  Cut Out + Keep also updates with articles about various crafters and crafting methods.

8. HelloGiggles - HelloGiggles is an online lifestyle magazine and community started in part by actress Zooey Deschanel.  Feminist and feminine, the site includes clever, funny, thought-provoking and moving articles as well as polls, forums, and other magazine-like content.  HelloGiggles also as a Pinterest account which fans can follow.  They love nail art and body-positive messages.

9. Project Gutenberg - With over 42,000 available titles, Project Gutenberg is a little bit more well-known, but on the off chance you haven't heard of it, it's high time you do.  The site is dedicated to taking books and literature that are now in the public domain and digitizing them so they are available to the masses for free.  By searching the title of a book, you can determine if it's available and then download it in various formats.  The site currently supports popular platforms like Kindle and good old HTML for just reading it right on your computer screen.  The books are digitized by volunteers and, while they occasionally contain mistakes, they're near perfect most of the time.  Check it out to see if your favorite classic is available -- this is a great option for college students who just can't afford a new copy of Pride and Prejudice.

10. Big Words - Speaking of poor college students, Big Words has been a live-saver for me when ordering text books.  Before you go off to Amazon, check Big Words -- they may be able to find you a cheaper version of the book you're looking for or a place where you can buy all of your books more cheaply than if you purchased them all separately.  I regularly get away with paying around 1/2 of what the bookshop at my school would have me pay for books for classes each semester.  Big Words sometimes also lets you in on coupon deals available at sites. While the site is mainly for students searching for text books, you can put in any ISBN to find anything that's out there.  Even if you're not looking for a book for school, there's a good chance you'll be able to find it for a fraction of the price using Big Words.

Now that I've given you my top ten, I want to hear some of yours.  What are some sites you love that no one else seems to know about?

Image courtesy of Idaho.gov.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Brother Juggalo

Some years ago now, my brother started hanging out with some new people.  Though I had not really gotten along with his past friends, these I really disapproved of.  Of course, being just the big sister, there wasn't a whole lot I could do about it.  Still, I remained suspicious of these new people he was spending time with.  Quickly, he began listening to "juggalo" music.  Probably the best-known group which performs such music is Insane Clown Posse, or ICP.  You may have seen their "hatchet man" logo, which features a male figure running with a hatchet and what appears to be dreadlocks.

Members of Insane Clown Posse
I tend not to be very judgmental of musical artists.  I got into Good Charlotte when I was in fifth grade and have wanted piercings ever since.  I started dying my hair unnatural colors (and still do, when I have the money).  I got into MxPx, Mest, Silverchair, and Rancid as a result of fangirling over Good Charlotte.  These bands tend to be on the rougher side (though it's certainly not the "roughest" out there).  They use profanity, they smoke, some of them use drugs, and the lyrics are sometimes violent.

However, the violence tends to be very tame in that the descriptions are not graphic.  This is not the case with Insane Clown Posse and other similar groups.

Once my brother got caught up in the fandom for ICP and their peer groups, he began painting his face.  The paint was black and white and supposed to be clownish, but horrifying at the same time.  You could tell it wasn't good for his skin, but he painted it almost daily and took pictures to put on his social media accounts. He began drawing pictures that either replicated or emulated the bands' artistic style.  Pictures of "the Great Malenko" and other band idols started popping up on my brother's wall and doors.  He drew most of these images with Sharpie markers.  It's a wonder the fumes didn't make him sick.  Then, after telling us he wanted to be a minister as a child, he declared he was no longer Christian -- he was a juggalo and after death, he would go to the "great carnival."  (I may be misremembering some of these details, but this was the gist I understood).

His new attitude and dedication to this lifestyle strained our relationship.  I don't like suggesting that this music ruins people's lives, but I do think that it has a big effect on people who are easily influenced like my brother.

Juggalo propaganda using kin terms
My second year of college, I took an introduction to psychology course because I needed a science credit and I thought it would be an easy A after having taken psychology in high school.  During one point in the semester, we talked about the power of kin terms.  What this means is, if you are begging for money, you are better off saying something like, "Can you spare a quarter, sister?" rather than just, "Can you spare a quarter?"  This will result in more money for you at the end of the day.

The power of kin terms is the reason nuns are such a close community.  Kin terms are prevalent in church settings -- "father," "sister," "brother," are all titles which are bestowed in used in the church community.  You'll find them in mob  families, sororities, and most importantly, cults.

Juggalos consider themselves a family.  There are internet memes in which juggalos talk about putting family first.  My brother refers to other juggalos as his family.  From my perspective, all this "family" has done for him has made him more difficult to get along with, colder, and more distant.  Furthermore, based on what I've seen of juggalo culture, there is something incredibly cult-like about it.  The whole "religion" concept is there, the use of kin terms, the exclusivity -- all of it is present.

I want to emphasize here again that I'm not necessarily condemning the entire juggalo genre.  To be perfectly honest, I'm not terribly educated about the culture or the music.  What I have heard, however (which seems to be a pretty accurate set of information, given that I heard it from people who take part in the culture and not "anti-juggalo propaganda") has given me a very negative opinion of them.

A juggalo and jugalette
I remember about a year ago, there was an incident near my home in which some juggalos harassed some kids on the street.  Another similar story involved guns.

Juggalos, of course, are not the only misguided people out there.  And certainly not all people who consider themselves juggalos are misguided people (though I can't say that I've met one who isn't misguided yet).

I think it's important, however, to be aware of what messages you are sending to other people based on your preferences -- whether those are for a particular genre of music, books, movies, or anything else.  And be aware of what the messages within the content are -- are they really something you believe in?

For more information on the juggalo culture, visit Wikipedia's article.

Insane Clown Posse image courtesy of Tru TV (which also includes an explanation of juggalo culture).
Propaganda image courtesy of Sancs Blog.
Juggalo couple picture courtesy of Modern Thrill.

Monday, April 15, 2013

On the Boston Marathon Bombing

Today, I woke up.  I got dressed, packed my bags, and headed to work.

Today, people woke up.  They got dressed, packed their bags, and headed to the Boston Marathon.

This evening, I lie in bed, think about what homework I have due tomorrow.

This evening, people lie motionless, thinking about nothing.

This evening, people lie in pain, missing limbs and suffering head injuries.

This evening, people lie in bed, or sit in hospitals, clutching at their hair and crying and praying and hoping that their loved ones will recover.

What happened today in Boston is unfair.  The people who are now suffering or no longer suffering probably had mornings similar to mine, yet they paid a price I was never charged.  I am struck by the cruelty that has descended in a place I consider part of my home.

I first heard about the bombing when a Facebook friend and former supervisor posted that she was praying and thinking of Boston.  I Googled Boston and clicked the "news" tab.  There were stories about the Marathon and I wondered if my former supervisor had friends who were running today.  Still, her status was too serious -- too intense -- to just be about a marathon.  So I refreshed the page and did a little more digging.  I then saw the news about the bomb.  This was at approximately 3:20.

I called my mom, asked her if she had heard the news.  She had not.  I heard her ask my dad if he was watching the news on the Boston Marathon.  They changed the television station and we hung up quickly so she could pay attention to the news.  I found a feed on the WCVB website and clicked back to it frequently while working on a religion paper about equality.  I started clicking around and refreshing Tumblr, Twitter, and Facebook.  I was grateful for the number of social media outlets that kept me as up-to-date as possible. Someone posted a picture-quote of Fred Rogers that read, "When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.' "  I reposted it.

I called my mom again to see if she had heard from my cousin, who attends school in Boston.  She had not.  I texted my cousin and waited while panicking.  She texted me back.  She was safe.  The city was in lock down.  She told me she loved me.  I said the same.

I called my mom a third time to tell her about my cousin.  She had been talking to my aunt.  She was crying when she answered the phone.  I learned that my cousin had been on the way to visit a shop between where the two bombs went off, but she got hungry, so she got something to eat first.  It saved her life.

Already there has been a lot written and art-ed about this sad, horrible event.  Throughout the evening, I have cried off and on, but done my best to stop myself.  By crying, I let them win.  I won't let them win.  I will remember that, given the amount of people packed into that space, that three people died is tragic but also something of a miracle.  That one-hundred-forty (plus) people were injured is tragic -- yet they live.  Although some of them have required amputations, they will go on living and they will be strong, living for those who did not get the chance.  I believe in their strength.

I will also not forget that the United States is not the only country experiencing death and violence today.  Dozens of countries experience this kind of horror every day.  Still, that does not make today any less sorrowful for Americans.

Despite today, I will remember that humanity is good.  I will not allow a few individuals make me believe otherwise (assuming this was an act of terror).  I will make something of this.  I will write.  I will honor those who we lost today.  I will wear my Red Sox hat in honor of Boston tomorrow.  I will not forget that Boston is my home.

As the event is still raw, I recognize that this may not be the most coherent or organized of posts.  For that I apologize.  That said, I would like to leave you with some reminders that the world is still a good place.  Do not let whoever did this trick you into believing otherwise -- for if you do, they have won.




Well I love that dirty water
Oh, oh, Boston, you're my home
"Dirty Water" - The Standells



Saturday, April 6, 2013

The Introvert Meets the Extrovert


On Friday afternoon, I had signed up to attend the monthly resident assistant service trip.  This month we went to the Southwest Virginia Food Bank.  I heard stories last year about resident assistants who went on this trip and met a guy there named Mr. James.  They told the rest of the staff that he was incredibly outgoing and told a lot of stories.  I had no idea what I was in for.

As many of you may already know or have figured out, I am quite an introvert.  This does not mean I cannot do public speaking or hate people -- I simply feel more like myself when I am alone.  I get exhausted when I am around people for extended periods of time.  And if someone is loud and in my face, I get uncomfortable quickly.  This doesn't mean that I think these people are bad people -- I simply can only take them in small doses.

So after some of the resident assistants left the interview for a new residence learning coordinator, we piled into the graduate assistant's car and headed over to the Southwest Virginia Food Bank.  We checked in with the receptionist and waited for a guy to come get us.  Once he arrived he led us to the volunteer room where we watched a "tedious" (his words, not mine) video about what we would be doing.  The guy was friendly and tall, but not overbearing.  He left us to watch the video and said that James would be in at some point to herd us to the correct location.

James arrived quietly.  I heard the door open behind me and then the small fridge by the door.  A soda can hissed as the tab was popped and the feet of a chair dragged on the linoleum floor.  The video played on.

When the video was ending, Mr. James got up and came to the front of the room.  He looked a little bit like a smaller version of Michael Clarke Duncan.  On his purple sweatshirt was some slogan having to do with God being the music of his life and a rainbow of musical notes and piano keys.  He prefaced his talk by saying that we had never met anyone like him and never would again.

He was right.

Mr. James spoke quickly, loudly, in bursts of pure energy and enthusiasm.  He talked about how much he loved people.

"I don' care if you bla', whi', whatever, I jus' love people, and there ain' nuttin' you can do 'bout it!"

He clearly loved his job and loved helping people.  While some of the girls in the group received this well, two of us are pretty extreme introverts and withdrew a bit.  We gave each others looks frequently throughout our time there.

Mr. James and the Hollins ladies of HRL.


When we were done sorting food for the day, Mr. James came out in a yellow t-shirt.  Earlier he had said he was going to change shirts.  He had two colors to offer and mentioned one of them was yellow, his favorite color.  Trying to be social, I told him my favorite color was yellow, too.  He wore the shirt, he said, for me.  We then took individual pictures with him before he took us on a tour.  One room had literally hundreds of pictures of him with other people, the same huge smile (which I now knew he achieved by laughing whenever a picture was taken).  He was particularly proud of the two pictures of him with Sheryl Crow.  When he took the group picture, he insisted we point up at the picture of them so he could show her the picture and tell her what big fans we were of hers.  (I'm not sure what gave him the impression we were big fans, but whatever suits him.)

Soon after that we left.  I declared in the car that I would be going directly to my room and staying there for the rest of the night so I could avoid interaction with other people.  I had had my fill of people for the day.

I'm not really telling this story to make a point, per se.  I'm telling this story just to tell it.  People who have so much enthusiasm for life, like Mr. James, are special people.  I appreciate them and sometimes envy them.  But at the end of the day, I'm glad to be me, even if I am a bit of a hermit-recluse sometimes.

If you need me, I'll be under my rock.

Feeding America image courtesy of Gilmore Shows.
Group picture of James Andrews' Facebook page.
Introvert cartoon image courtesy of Lindsay Buroker.

Friday, April 5, 2013

Save the Taylor Library

My mom recently informed me that some councilman of my town had suggested closing a library I grew up in. I, and many others, have decided to write letters of protest. I hope you choose to do the same.

Here is mine:


April 4, 2013

Mr. John P. Anderson
Town Administrator
Town of Derry
14 Manning Street
Derry, New Hampshire 03038

Dear Mr. Anderson,

It has come to my attention that you have suggested closing the Taylor Library.  As a future young adult librarian, I was disheartened to hear this news.  I grew up in East Derry and frequented the Taylor Library as a child.  My many visits and experiences there helped me determine my career path at a young age.  Even when I visit today, the librarians who run the small library recognize me.  The Taylor Library is an important piece to the Derry community and should not be closed.

That the town continues to place unimportant projects instead of supporting places of education frustrates me.  While the town frequently spends money on improving roads that need not be improved, the schools, libraries, and museums in the town suffer.  Now it has come to closing one of these beloved and historical locations at the cost of educational progression.  The Taylor Library is a great alternative for members of the community who live in East Derry and either cannot or do not wish to travel to the Derry Public Library.

Though some may argue that libraries are irrelevant in today’s society, this is a falsehood.  Libraries are more relevant than ever.  With the influx of information due to technological advances, it is not only helpful but necessary to have places of organized information.  The Taylor Library is one such place.

In addition to serving as an excellent place of education and events for children and adults, the Taylor Library is a wonderful historical building in a convenient location.  The area offers a relaxing cemetery in which to read books patrons have borrowed from the library, a convenience store to buy a drink or snack, and plenty of outdoor space.  However, these places may suffer a decline in visits should the library be closed.  Furthermore, as I am sure Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, and other groups meet at the church across the street from the library, I am positive that the library is frequently sought out by parents who would rather wait for their child nearby than drive home only to drive back out.

To close the Taylor Library would be an affront to the librarians who work there, children who learn there, parents who relax there, and the community which surrounds it.  Please reconsider your suggestion and choose to support the library, rather than dismiss it.

Thank you,

Abby Hargreaves

The Taylor Library

Taylor Library Image courtesy of Taylor Library Website.
For more information regarding the issue at hand, visit The Eagle Tribune.

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Equality in Sikhism

Hey everyone.

I am so sorry I haven't been able to post in such a long time.  There was a bit of an emergency I had to deal with so I've been preoccupied with that but I'm hoping to start posting more regularly again.  This is a paper I wrote for a religion class -- I do not practice Sikhism myself, but it is a religion which intrigues me.  Eventually this paper will turn into a for-against paper for a final project and will ultimately be ten pages or so, but this is part one.  I hope you learn a little bit about Sikhism and if you already know about Sikhism, I'd love to talk to you!


            As the fifth most popular religion in the world, Sikhism serves the spiritual needs of many individuals.  Because the followers of the tradition represent such a large population of the world, that others have some understanding of this largely misunderstood religion is vital.  Despite the many misapprehensions associated with Sikhism, the Sikh tradition indoctrinates equality and tolerance in its followers.
            Of approximately seven billion people populating the world, .36% practice Sikhism.  “There are 25 million Sikhs around the world, Singh says, about 700,000 which live in the United States.  Most Sikhs are in India” (Almasy).  Of 25 million Sikhs, about half must be women.  Therefore there are 12.5 million practicing female Sikhs.  Their prevalence in the Sikh culture is the same in any other culture, yet unlike other religions, theirs preaches for their equality. 
From the beginning of the tradition, Sikhism has striven to include women members in every way a Sikh man may participate.  Guru Nanak made it clear that women would be allowed the same admission to
A Sikh woman
Sikhism as men and should be denied no part of the religion, including the freedom to act as religious leaders and pray without the permission of a man (Kaur).  Because both men and women can lead religious ceremonies (Oxtoby and Segal 338), both men and women have an equal opportunity to impact the lives of their fellow Sikhs and serve their religion at the same level.  Neither sex is more important than the other.  This concept was not only progressive for its time, but is even progressive today.  The equality of women in Sikhism is likely the result of the tradition recognizing that women possess the “unique ability to give birth” and the value thereof (Oxtoby and Segal 345).  Sikhism, in theory, views women as men’s equals.
            In partnerships, women continue to function as an equal.  Like Guru Nanak, Guru Amar Das felt women held the same value as men.  Guru Amar Das criticized an accepted marriage practice which involved wives throwing themselves onto the funeral pyres of their dead husbands.  His disapproval of monogamy further suggested an equal give-and-take in marriage (Kaur).  The Sikh tradition has valued and continues to value Sikh women the same as it values Sikh men.  “From the beginning, Sikh women were seen as partners as Sikh men.  Married life, not celibacy, was seen as the ideal” (Oxtoby and Segal 345).  Though this is not to suggest that women hold a higher place than religion in the lives of men, it does suggest they and their relationships with men are important to the religion.  Women’s importance in Sikhism is equal to that of men’s.   
 Women are not only equals as partners, but as individuals as well.  “[Guru Amar Das] thought all women should be educated and have the same access to education as men” (Kaur).  Guru Amar Das believed in women could and should also make their own choices regarding wardrobe, like any man could.  In addition to making decisions for themselves, Sikh women are urged to protect the lives of themselves and others.  “Guru Gobind Singh encouraged women to be warrior-like and to fight against those who persecuted them because of their faith” (Kaur).  In a world where women are typically expected to leave fighting of any kind to their male counterparts, Sikhism takes a stand.  Sikhs believe in the ability of women to fight for themselves and their religion without the help of a man, once again emphasizing their equality with men.
In addition to their advocacy for women, Sikhs believe in equality for all humans who inhabit the earth, regardless of their religious affiliation.  Unlike other religions, Sikhs do not attempt to convert people who do not believe in Sikhism to Sikhism.  “…the emphasis in Sikhism has been less on converting others and more on allowing human beings freedom to find their own destiny and salvation in their own way” (Singh).  This suggests that Sikhs view all paths to salvation valid and equal.  The attitude toward other
Guru Nanak
religions which Sikhs hold has been prevalent since Guru Nanak, who “taught…that all religions were good” (Alamsy).  Though Sikhs may have personal preference for the Sikh way, they do not condemn others for practicing differently. 
Other religions may feel differently, and there have been cases in which the followers of one religion “punished” another for believing differently.  Despite this, Sikhs have never “desecrated a Hindu temple, the idols therein, or any mosque” (Singh).  The acceptance of other religions does not mean a lack of belief in Sikhism.  In fact, it may mean an increase in a Sikh’s beliefs as one of the prayers which Sikhs read every day “ends with the plea for betterment of all mankind, not that of Sikhs alone to the exclusion of everyone else.”  This includes agnostics and atheists in addition to other religions (Singh).  In accepting others and their religions, Sikhs clearly express a tolerance and belief in the equality of citizens of the world.
Sikhs not only practice equality of all religions on a large scale, but in individual instances as well.  There are various examples of this throughout Sikh history.  Guru Nanak accepted followers of other religions to follow his teachings.  One of his most devout followers began as a man who worshiped the Hindu god Durga.  Soon after he converted to Sikhism and continued to shadow Guru Nanak (“The First Master”).  “[Guru Nanak] travelled widely to both Hindu and Muslim places of pilgrimage and his two constant companions throughout were Mardana, a Muslim, and Bola, a Hidu” (Singh). While serving the injured warriors in battle, Bhai Kanhayya, a Sikh, did not differentiate between enemies and allies when dispensing care (Singh).  Perhaps even more dramatic is the story of Guru Tegh Bahadur who gave his life in martyrdom to save some Hindus from converting involuntarily (Singh).  By respecting so many other religions and even sacrificing themselves, Sikhs embody their feelings regarding equality which are so predominant in their beliefs.
The Sikhs not only exemplify their beliefs in equality in their life stories, but also in their spiritual texts.  The Guru Granth Sahib includes teachings from religions other than Sikhism.  Some of these texts are attributed to the Muslim with whom Guru Nanak travelled with, Mardana.  The holy book, at 1,400 pages, certainly has plenty of room for writers of all religions to contribute, in addition to the ten gurus (Almasy).  By valuing the input of people who practice other religions, the Sikhs actively show their dedication to equality.
Sikhs enthusiastically include people from all financial and social backgrounds as well.  In order to help to keep prejudices at bay, one clever guru offered a solution.  “…by knowing the last name one could distinguish which caste the person is from, [therefore] Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave all Sikh men the last name of ‘Singh’ and all Sikh women the last name of ‘Kaur’…” (“Sikhism”).  In addition to avoiding markers that might indicate social status, Sikhs strive to remember that “ ‘all human beings have equal status in the eyes of God’ ” (“Hindus”) by allowing all people in their places of worship, gurdwaras.  Sikhs respect all who enter gurdwaras and ask only that those who enter respect their practice of taking off their shoes and covering their heads (Singh).  The image of openness which they project to citizens of the world not only helps others to understand Sikhs, but works as another way to actively preserve their views on equality.  In addition to allowing people of other faiths or no faith in their places of worship, Sikhs “variously incorporate clinics, schools, guest quarters, and community centers” in their gurdwaras (Almasy).  These accompaniments function in emphasizing the Sikhs’ dedication to equality and equally serving all.
The langar, a meal shared after religious services and ceremonies, works specifically to underline this dedication to equality.  The concept of langar came to the surface with Guru Nanak, who “believed in a casteless society without any distinctions based on birthright, religion, or sex” (“The First Master”).  All are
Langar
equal as the langar progresses – regardless of any kind of social status, all eat together and no one person is higher than any other.  Because langar is free (“Sikhism”), any and all people can enjoy.  In this practice, Sikhs endeavor to truly make all involved equal.
The Sikhs not only believe in equality but practice it at every possible opportunity.  Whether they are working to include women or people who practice other traditions in their religion, inviting people of different faiths into their places of worship, or serving those who are less fortunate than themselves, the Sikhs actively promote equality in their daily lives.  Their strong belief translates into actions which not only contribute to the greater good of the world, but make them accepting people.





Works Cited
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“Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists Rebut Santorum: ‘Equality’ Is Their Concept, Too.” Christian Century 129.4 (2012): 17. Religion and Philosophy Collection. Web. 15 Mar. 2013.
“Historical Gurdwaras of Punjab.” Sikhism Religion of the Sikh People. Sikhs.org, 2011. Web. 8 Mar. 2013.
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Oxtoby, Willard Gurdon, and Alan F. Segal. A Concise Introduction to World Religions. Don Mills, Ont.: Oxford UP, 2007. Print.
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Singh, I.J. “Tolerance in Religion: How Sikhism Views Other Religions.” Sikh Review (2003): n.pag. The Sikh Review. The Sikh Cultural Center, 27 Mar. 2010. Web. 18 Mar 2013.

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Guru Nanak Image courtesy of My Guru.
Langar Image courtesy of Sikh Wiki.